who are you?

love and relationships all boil down to one single fact, we want people to understand who we are and love us for who we are without judgement. if that isn't what you're getting out of yours, you are getting a raw deal. here's where people go wrong, going about their relationships showing an image of strength. no one is perfect and trying to project that image is basically lying to yourself. you've got to be an idiot to do that!? at some point you will break down and depending on how long you were spinning the facade, all hell will break by knowing your weaknesses and admitting them. we really didnt think you were perfect, we were just judging you for the wrong reason. when you own your weakness it becomes a source of power. power that no one can bring down. unless you let them. you've got to be an idiot to do that!? here's what i think is clear picture of me. who are you?

human nature

It’s our memories that make us as human beings. You learn to walk and you have to remember how to walk for the rest of our lives. What if the caveman who invented fire couldn’t remember how to do it the second time round. “I had it a second ago but I don’t know what happened!” We probably wouldn’t have come this far in evolving. We probably never take the time to appreciate our brains. “I can do, so who cares how I do it?” That’s why athletes are some of our superstars. They have to remember how to do it the second time round, everyday. So, what happens when our brains fail us, we end up “insane”. We never did understand how we did it, now we have no idea how to fix it. Point is, never overlook our mentally handicapped. Wasn’t their choice to get to that point and now have to play the hand they’re dealt. Though, they may never understand that. Ending up in the famous Mathare Mental Hospital was the cruelest insult/joke that we would tell each other. Basically we didn’t fully gra…

The Talk

When is it time to have the talk? What factors determine the time to have the talk? Probably age and maybe “smartness”. You don’t want to give too much information to bore them but also enough to cover the basics. More or less like a bikini. I think it time we had the marijuana talk.
Yes I just said that. This isn’t a diversion tactic but it’s time we talked about it. First it’s a plant. Secondly it isn’t the leading cause of insanity and stupid decisions. This blogging gig is probably a bad decision but not stupid. It’s a bad idea since as an African child you can’t talk back to your parents. Whether they may have the wrong idea, that’s inconsequential. Its basically a talk that’s going to be hard if you can’t talkback. And having facts and scientific research doesn’t count for anything. Hence, when’s the right time to have the talk?

Love Thy Neighbor

I dint say lets be weird about it. After all the parents may be watching. It’s a different type of love. After all, Jesus Christ did simplify it to those two commandments. But these days religion has become a sore subject. Don’t just assume its just fellow Christians out there in the big universe. Every one has the way they associate. Yours isn’t the “perfect” doctrine you peg it to be.
However, some things do go across the board. When you meet an oncoming person on the street, you already have a which-way dance. Literally ants do the same thing. It’s in our DNA. Love should also be in our DNA. I don’t get why suddenly people discriminate about tribe, race, religion and colour. Like come on! I get born non-white and suddenly its “that ones overcooked, I don’t want it. You take it!” who said white’s perfect? My white clothes are never the same as they left the store. No matter how many times I scrub and bleach, “tint haitoki”
We all live on a very thin sheet of crust resting on ve…

What is your story?

seems a fairly straight foward question but how some people dont get it is mind boggling. i was recently at a funeral and the person's story of forty plus years was minimized to one page. it's sad when a loved one dies but its sadder that regardless of how interesting their life may have been, it isreduced to one page. a person’s life story is not a Wikipedia biography of the facts and events of a life, but rather the way a person integrates those facts and events internally—picks them apart and weaves them back together to make meaning. This narrative becomes a form of identity, in which the things someone chooses to include in the story, and the way she tells it, can both reflect and shape who they are. A life story doesn’t just say what happened, it says why it was important, what it means for who the person is, for who they’ll become, and for what happens next with the age of social media, we now judge people by 140 characters or the pictures they post. but do we really …

Africa - What's left

Its quite an interesting place. With all the wildlife and natural resources. But one time in a far, far away place, some heads of states actually decided to scramble and partition it. So they grabbed each a piece of land to enrich themselves. And partitioned some raw materials to take back to their far away land in their ships. So they left the land bare and went back to their castles and monarchys. But they had a surprise. They wanted to be paid for the land. So they formed financial institutions to lend to the poor Africans. So that African countries could continue to be poor while all their raw materials had been stolen. I think Africa is owed back some land rates. Its about time we got paid for time spent. Really, colonialism and now some more neo-colonialism? Are some people more equal than others? Just because some one has the technology to build guns has the right to shoot the spear throwing Africans. Time spent should be equated to the debt currently owed. And probably som…

bobby: such a cute name